1.
According to Hochschild, the
second shift is shopping, cooking, paying bills; taking care of the car, the
garden, and yard; keeping harmony with Evan's mother who drops over quite a
bit, "concerned" about Joey, with neighbors, their voluble
baby-sitter, and each other. And Nancy's talk reflects a series of second-shift
thoughts: "We're out of barbecue sauce ... Joey needs a Halloween costume
... The car needs a wash..." and so on. She reflects a certain
"second-shift sensibility," a continual attunement to the task of
striking and restriking the right emotional balance between child, spouse,
home, and outside job. (Hochschild, 1987)
2.
Hochschild argues that
families create “myths” about their division of household labor. The myth created
by Nancy and Evan Holt is that her parents went through the same thing and she didn’t
want to go through the same thing as her parents did. “This outer cover to
their family life, this family myth, was jointly devised. It was an attempt to
agree that there was no conflict over the second shift, no tension between
their versions of manhood and womanhood, and that the powerful crisis that had
arisen was temporary and minor.” (Hochschild, 1987)
3.
The purpose of family myths
was the outer cover to their family life. “It was jointly devised. It was an
attempt to agree that there was no conflict over the second shift, no tension
between their versions of manhood and womanhood, and that the powerful crisis
that had arisen was temporary and minor. The wish to avoid such a conflict is
natural enough. But their avoidance was tacitly supported by the surrounding
culture, especially the image of the woman with the flying hair. After all,
this admirable woman also proudly does the "upstairs" each day
without a husband's help and without conflict.” (Hochschild, 1987)
4.
Before I start a family, I want
to sit down with my future husband and speak about the whole thing all over
again like we did before we got hitched. I want to have a job that starts when I
drop off the kids to school and ends when I have to pick up the kids from
school. I feel like with my major being Child Studies, I will have that. That is
one of the many reasons why I love the subject. I’ll be able to be a great mom
when I get home. Mondays through Fridays after school, I’ll cook, clean, help
the kids with school and spend time with my husband. When it comes to the
weekends, I want to be off, and spend all day with my family. Saturday can be
the kids’ soccer games, while I’ll be home cooking, cleaning, and maybe hanging
with friends for a little while the kids are at practice. I want Sunday to be
all about family and only family. Maybe cook dinner, play games, watch movies, or
just be lazy all day. My goal is to spend a much time with my children when I
get home and make them have a great time with their parents.
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