Blog Assignment 7

Ghadir Abdulaziz

1.       According to Hochschild, the second shift is shopping, cooking, paying bills; taking care of the car, the garden, and yard; keeping harmony with Evan's mother who drops over quite a bit, "concerned" about Joey, with neighbors, their voluble baby-sitter, and each other. And Nancy's talk reflects a series of second-shift thoughts: "We're out of barbecue sauce ... Joey needs a Halloween costume ... The car needs a wash..." and so on. She reflects a certain "second-shift sensibility," a continual attunement to the task of striking and restriking the right emotional balance between child, spouse, home, and outside job. (Hochschild, 1987)

2.       Hochschild argues that families create “myths” about their division of household labor. The myth created by Nancy and Evan Holt is that her parents went through the same thing and she didn’t want to go through the same thing as her parents did. “This outer cover to their family life, this family myth, was jointly devised. It was an attempt to agree that there was no conflict over the second shift, no tension between their versions of manhood and womanhood, and that the powerful crisis that had arisen was temporary and minor.” (Hochschild, 1987)

3.       The purpose of family myths was the outer cover to their family life. “It was jointly devised. It was an attempt to agree that there was no conflict over the second shift, no tension between their versions of manhood and womanhood, and that the powerful crisis that had arisen was temporary and minor. The wish to avoid such a conflict is natural enough. But their avoidance was tacitly supported by the surrounding culture, especially the image of the woman with the flying hair. After all, this admirable woman also proudly does the "upstairs" each day without a husband's help and without conflict.” (Hochschild, 1987)

4.       Before I start a family, I want to sit down with my future husband and speak about the whole thing all over again like we did before we got hitched. I want to have a job that starts when I drop off the kids to school and ends when I have to pick up the kids from school. I feel like with my major being Child Studies, I will have that. That is one of the many reasons why I love the subject. I’ll be able to be a great mom when I get home. Mondays through Fridays after school, I’ll cook, clean, help the kids with school and spend time with my husband. When it comes to the weekends, I want to be off, and spend all day with my family. Saturday can be the kids’ soccer games, while I’ll be home cooking, cleaning, and maybe hanging with friends for a little while the kids are at practice. I want Sunday to be all about family and only family. Maybe cook dinner, play games, watch movies, or just be lazy all day. My goal is to spend a much time with my children when I get home and make them have a great time with their parents.

Assignemnt 5

I will be skipping assignment 5

Research APA assignment 6

The Possible Negative Emotional and Psychological Consequences in Children of Divorce

Volume 6

Leah Cameron

College of DuPage

Abstract

Over 50% of American marriages end in divorce. If one’s parents are divorced, that person is more likely to become divorced him/herself later in life. In divorced families, the parents are far more likely to be depressed, stressed, lacking emotional support from friends and family members, and reporting more conflict with their ex-spouses. A child in these circumstances may feel abandoned, unloved, or come to believe that there is something “wrong with them” that caused the other parent to go away. A parent’s absence can affect a child not only through the direct factor of their absence, but through a lack of fiscal support as well. The research question was, “What’s The Possible Negative Emotional and Psychological”?

“In the aftermath of a divorce, one of the more unfortunate outcomes is that one of the parents may become absent from the child’s life” (Cameron, 2008). “In post-divorce, children are nearly two times more likely to be living in poverty, as almost 41% of their fathers have no child support agreements in place with the courts, and about 50% of them never pay their court-ordered amount” (2008). These statistics show what happens to these children that are left with parents that are going through a divorce. “The negative factors in the divorced parents’ lives – anger over the divorce, stress over financial issues and ongoing conflict with the other parent, low levels of education as well as pay, and a lack of emotional support – may, at times, overflow onto their children, whether or not they intend to do it, or are even aware that it is happening” (Cameron, 2008). The child may have to deal with what is termed “parental alienation” – which is when the desire of one parent to turn the child against the other. It shows that the studies all clearly show that a parents’ divorce can have many consequences on a child, even going onto adulthood. These consequences may include difficulties with adult relationships with their own spouses or children, lingering feelings of insecurity and doubt, low self-esteem, and even drug and alcohol abuse.

This journal article did not have and graphs or tables. This article can be improved by having table or any graphs that’ll help the reader understand the study more. Also, they could have included the ethnicity, race or the socioeconomic rate for divorce. The study also could have included why people get a divorce. Overall, there information and statistics were greatly used and were helpful. 

Cameron, L. (2008). The possible negative emotional and psychological consequences in children of divorce.ESSAI, 6(15), 25-30. 

                  Retrieved from http://dc.cod.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=1057&context=essai

Blog Assignment 4

Ghadir Abdulaziz

Professor Gager

FCST200

2 October, 2012

Blog Assignment 4

1.      According to the slides:

a.       Power: Ability to force another person to do something even against their will.

                                                               i.      Ex: When the big boss tells you to do something when it may be illegal may give you something great in exchange.

b.      Prestige: Respect and status in society.

                                                               i.      Ex: Neighbors, coworkers, friends.

c.       Privilege: Special advantage or benefit enjoyed by individuals, but not all.

                                                               i.      Ex: People going to fundraisers.

2.      The three variables that sociologists use to define social class are income, occupation, and education. How I would define my social class is middle class because I’m not a rich person neither am I poor person. My family has comfortable income, we own a house and everybody in the house has a professional job with a Bachelor’s degree or higher. We all have cars and we live a happy life.

3.      My race and ethnicity has been an issue several times.

4.      I am a nineteen year old Muslim American female that wears the hijab. Last year, I applied at a daycare center in Woodland Park and I got the job. I was to work with little kids and take care of them while their parents were busy at work. The kids loved me and they didn’t want to leave the daycare. When the children would leave, I would have parents come up to and tell me how great they think I am and I am a big influence on their lives. I hit it off with the children the very first day which made them really like me. The first month was absolutely great and I loved every bit of my job, until one day my “boss” came up to me and told me she needed to speak to me about an important situation. I was worried I did something wrong. So we went into her room and she specifically said to me, “You need to take off that thing that’s wrapped around your head or whatever the hell it’s called”. All I said was “excuse me”. She went on and on and said, “Yes, I’m sorry but the children in your class are afraid of that!” I was in complete shock. I explained to her that what the children do and say to me out of love and hope. It was hard of her to believe me. So she gave me an ultimatum, it was either I take it off in class or just leave and never come back. She gave me a week to giver and answer. To show her how much the children loved me and cherished me, I told each and every of the kids parents and they totally disagreed with it. But it obviously went through one ear an out the other for this lady. The last day of the week came which was Friday and she told me there was no need for you to go and tell everybody everything. She told me there was a lady who wears it also but takes it off when she gets to work. All I did was look at her and told her “well that’s not me. I love these children so much but I won’t be able to work here anymore if you’re making me take it off.” She didn’t even tell me am sorry or anything, she just said ok and said hope to see you soon!

Things like that tick me off to the point where I feel like I am not welcomed anywhere or I won’t get any job. I believe she did that because she probably did not like me. I was the sweetest to those children. I treated them kindly and I had a lot of patience to deal with them but it was totally fine for me because I love working with little kids. I believe I can make a difference in children’s lives.

Edit:

I did not take this case any further becasue I wanted to save myself from trouble. Im not the kind of person that would make a big scene unless I stand up for myself, which is what I did. I would have not called the cops or filed a complaint. It'll just show how bad of a person I am. I wanted to be the bigger person and let it go. I realized theres people out there that will love you and hate you. Im the kind of person that will like you no matter who are, or where you come from. I was raised to be that kind of person. I also loved the chidlren and their parents, so I didnt want to make myself look bad in front of those little angels. No matter what her reaction towards me was, I still lift my head up high and I will still chase my dreams even though I will not be accepted.

Blog Assignment 3

Ghadir Abdulaziz

Professor Gager      

FCST 200

27 September, 2012

Blog Assignment 3

            Many people say that Arabs are known as whites or Asians. I think I’ve classified myself as being white for the past couple of years now since I never knew what we really were. Last semester, in my Sociology class I believe we mentioned that Arabs are classified as Asians.  I was born here in New Jersey in St. Joseph’s Hospital in South Paterson.  I was also raised here which makes me an Arab- American. An Arab American is a United States citizen or resident of Arab ethnic, cultural, heritage or identity, who identifies themselves as Arab. My parents were born overseas in Palestine in a small beautiful village called Tormusaya. As for my grandparents, all four were born in Tormusaya too.  My grandparents were all good friends which led my parents to get married.

 For me it doesn’t matter what race I am. I can be white, Asian or any other race and don’t care honestly.  When it comes to ethnicity, that’s what’s really important to me because I feel like not too any people take it seriously. When someone asks me “where are you from, how does it feel to be have that wrapped over your head all day, do they push you to wear that?” First of all, it’s called hijab and no we don’t live back in the days where people were forced to do things. I tell them I’m and Arab-American and they go right ahead and say “oh I thought you were born there and came here to better yourself”. I just look at people and laugh honestly because they don’t know what’s going on. They have the opportunity to get to learn about things but jump in and assume things. So ethnicity is a big thing for me.

Sociologically thinking, I think the children choose the dolls that they do because the society they grew up in and the knowledge they know from the past. Fifteen out of the twenty one children chose the white doll. What I think is a social factor that influences the children’s doll choice is maybe they always see white dolls when they go to toy stores. Maybe they hardly ever see any dark colored dolls. For instance, when they play in school they might always see that white doll with blue eyes. Also, I don’t think racism would be the issue. Companies should try making more dolls that are darker skin so people can actually see that there are not only white dolls out there.

           

Blog Post Assignment 2

Ghadir Abdulaiz

 Professor Gager

 FCST 200

 Assignment 2

1. According to the functionalist theory, the definition of the "instrumental leader" is one person who led the group discussion about how to accomplish the task they had been assigned.  The definition for "expressive leader" is a person who kept up the group's spirit with warm, supportive remarks and jokes. The family roles that were connected to each of these leader definitions were since family was a small group, it was functional for one adult member to specialize in instrumental leadership and for the other to specialize in expressive leadership. The husband was the instrumental leader because his labor provided the financial support for the family. The stay-at-home wife was the expressive leader because she provided emotional support to the husband and children.

2.  The main demographic that changed during the 1960s and 1970s was that married women poured into the work-force in the 1960s and 1970s, the breadwinner-homemaker family lost its dominant position. most of the writing about the family in those years was devoted to refusing Parsons implicit conclusion that this change in the family was for the worse.

3. In contrast to functionalist theorists, what I think the main theme of conflict theory is when studying the family, they see men stronger than women. They think men should be the man of the household. "Conflicts theorists have a much less favorable view of the 1950s family than did Parsons because of what they see as women's domination by men, due, in large part, to women's lack of economic resources."

 4. Social exchange theory is based on ideas from dependency. What exchange theorists say about husbands bargaining power versus that of wives is husbands are in a stronger bargaining position when they are the sole earners in their families because their wives have fewer alternative sources if income. So if the wife earns more money on her own, her dependence decreases and so the husbands power over them decreases also.

5. Gender/ Feminist theory has an important insight. It awares us that the experience of living in a family is different for women than it is for men. Women's interests in the family are not necessarily the same as men's interests. You have to view families through a prism that separates the experience of men and women rather than just considering what’s best for the family as a whole.

6. I think the power of wives versus husbands in families is changing especially in this era. It’s the years 2012 and I do not think nothing has stayed the same since the 1960s. In today’s society, the wife with kids is hardly ever a stay at home mom. Both wife and husband usually work. The kids are either in school during the day or being babysat. The husbands are always working. 

assignment 1: create your blog

Ghadir Abdulaziz

Professor Connie Gager

FCST200_03

8 September 2012

                My name is Ghadir Abdulaziz. I am a 19 year old Muslim American from Palestine. I was born and raised here in New Jersey. I have many big goals and dreams that I want to achieve in life. I love my family and friends. I love to shop and explore new things. I am an outgoing girl. Many people look at me in a weird way since I wear the hijab but when they get to know me they find me interesting by the things I tell them about my religion which is Islam. I love to travel. Unfortunately, I’ve been to only three places out of the states which are Canada, Jordan and my lovely homeland Palestine. I am currently a Family and Child Studies major with a concentration of Child Life Specialist. I think this major is just right for me because I love children and I know helping children and their families overcome life’s most challenging events will be a blessing for me. After four years of getting my Bachelor’s degree I want to further my education and become more knowledgeable in children’s lives. I of course would love to get married soon. Many people would want a rich person as a spouse but I truly would not want a rich person. Money does not buy happiness or love. My parents got married at a young age and I see their romance still going strong till this day. I have four sisters and two brothers and they raised us to be smart, intelligent kids. We love to have big picnics with the whole family, and one of the funniest things that ever happened to me was at a picnic at the park. I was playing basketball with a group of people that I actually didn’t know. So they asked me “do you know how to play?” and I was like “uhh yeah, I use to be in girl scouts”. So, they turned the ball to me and I was thinking “oh I got his” and all of a sudden after I jump to make a basket I fall flat on face and they started laughing at me. It was so embarrassing!

One topic that interests me is the Family Trend project assignment. I think it would be great to do research on families and analyzing family trend data. Another topic that also interested me is the Part 2: Diversity and Families. I do not know exactly what it will be about but I want to learn about the diversity in families, how it’s ok to take someone out of your religion, race, ethnicity or there social class. Lately, I’ve been seeing that and I think that it is great to see people not think they use to a few years ago. I think wikis is an awesome idea. It was really confusing at first but when I kept on going back and playing with it, I realized that it’s actually fun and exciting. Before I watched the video, I didn’t know how to use it. It taught me that you can just cut and paste your assignment in the edit box and it will put it in document form. Also, when working in a group, members can go back and edit anytime they want. Overall, I think I’ll get the hang of it and I’m looking forward to this semester.